Lani: Unicorns


From – you can totes buy this! We’re not getting a cut if you do, because we don’t do that at ReFab, but I love that you can actually own this pillow.


I think “Be yourself,” is great advice, although sometimes it can be weird because if you know who you are, being yourself is natural, and if you don’t, you don’t know what’s you and what’s not you, so it’s a deceptively complicated motto.

Regardless, I think there are days when we could all use a little time being a unicorn. (And I mean this in the magical, innocent, glittery sense, not in the Dan Savage sense. Although if that’s your thing, then go forth into the world and make people happy.)

(If you don’t know what the Dan Savage sense of “unicorn” is, and you’re about to head to Google, just beware. It’s not that bad, but there are some things you should never search on Google. Like the Dirty Sanchez. JUST DON’T DO IT. Jon Stewart said it on the Daily Show once and now I can never go back to a time when I didn’t know what that meant.)

I’m sorry. Where was I? Oh, yes. Glittery unicorns. Beautiful, elegant, sleek, and yet they’ll skewer you in a heartbeat if you mess with them. For fucked or fab, how were you a unicorn this week?

Lani: Courage



I’ve known so many people who have been calcified by their own fear of failure, and I have to say… it’s not easy to embrace failure, until you remember that no one ever succeeds without failing first. You think of the hundreds of rejections that Stephen King put on a spike, or of how Steve Jobs got booted from Apple in the mid-nineties. Failure isn’t a block to success; it’s the stepping stool that lifts us high enough to reach it.

So this week, for fucked or for fab, how did the courage to step up work out for you?

Lani: Choice


I know this treads on Jenny’s hallowed happiness ground, but this week I’m focusing less on the happiness part of things (although I think that’s important) and more about the choice.

In my fiction classes, I teach that you can show readers who a character really is by giving that character a choice, and letting us watch him make it. Action isn’t what you do, it’s who you are, and every choice you make is action.

So this week, for fucked or fab, what choices did you make, and what did you learn from them?

Lani: Knowledge


I love people who are smarter than me. You can tell that by the people I choose to hang out with. They make me happy for a lot of reasons, but one of those reasons is all the freaking brilliance. It’s truly inspiring.

But even if you put obvious genius aside, I love this idea that everyone—absolutely everyone—knows something that never even occurred to me to think about. It makes meeting new people even more fascinating, and it adds a sense of excitement to the day.

This week, for fucked or fab, I’m sending my gratitude to the universe for those who have taught me well, and continue to educate me as we go. Who are those people for you?

Lani: Best Friends



When I grow up, I wanna be the one on the left. And yes, it’s because of the polka dots.

This week, for fucked or fab, which of these ladies did you need to channel in order to make it through?