Lani: This Week

Every Thursday, I’m supposed to come here and post what I’ve been thinking about. Usually, when I have a thought during the week, I scribble it down, schedule it for Thursday, and go on my merry way. I had those thoughts during the week, but never made it to the website, and now I’m here on Thursday morning without much to say, sadly.

So, I appeal to you, o Wise ReFabbers; what have you been thinking about this week?

Next week, I’ll try to get back on that horse, but I’m moving in May and there is simply not enough time for everything I have to do, so all I can promise is my best effort.

32 thoughts on “Lani: This Week

  1. Rouan says:

    I’ve been wondering if I would ever be able to retire or if I’d have to go straight from work to a nursing home around fhe age of 85 or so. Fortunately we have a financial advisor at work so I scheduled an appointment with him and he went over all my finances. The good news is that I am on the right track for retirement, in fact, I should be able to retire in my mid 60’s instead of mid 80’s! The bad news is that he wants me to track everything I spend for the next 30 days to see where my money goes so he can help me figure out where I can cut back or save a little more for emergencies…. Do any of you realize how hard it is to track every penny you spend? I had to go buy a plunger – quickly- yesterday so I walked to a local dollar type store to buy one. On the way back, I passed a Dunkin Donuts and on impulse, stopped in to buy a treat (I blame Jenny for this, I’m currently listening to Bet Me and it’s making me crave donuts…and I don’t even particularly like donuts! LOL). When I got home I dutifully recorded the purchase of the plunger. Several minutes later, I remembered I had to record the donut purchase too; he said everything, not just planned purchases!

  2. Ha! I was.

    The reason I did that quick little test was because I was *just* thinking about how odd it is to be the last to comment on a thread. Fyi re previous thread , IMF not IMG!
    I thought about meditating a lot – joined the challenge you posted on FB. I haven’t meditated much, methinks once.
    I thought about whether my use of “methinks” is an affectation or not. I think not (heehee) because I also say tootle-loo as goodbye to my nearest and dearest.

    I’ve been trying to live positively instead of just thinking positively. Being more active in being positive. Was nice to the fellow who short-changed me by 75% today. He was very contrite, and I accepted apology and told him that I hope he is ok, because he might be pretty sleep-deprived (or something) to make that big an error.

    I’m still thinking about craft and houses. Maybe I’ll take a course in how-to…something, something house-build.

  3. Micki says:

    I’ve been wondering why Americans always include the punctuation marks inside a quote, while the British do it to different rules. (In BritEng, one word in quote marks will not include punctuation that belongs to the greater “sentence”, while a complete piece of dialog will include the punctuationn inside the quotes. “Like this,” she said.) I’ve been wondering which is really more sensible, and then I’ve been wondering why I care so much when I’ve got other things that MUST BE DONE.

    Only one letter’s difference between wondering and wandering . . . .

    • Wonder no more. We’re obviously more sensible! My (judgemental) view of the American style is that it saves thought. If punctuation is always inside the end quote, regardless of sense, you just do it. In English, you need to consider whether the punctuation belongs to the phrase in quotes, or rather to the sentence as a whole – as you say.

      On the other hand, if your goal is to save mental effort, stick with US style!

      • Anjemon says:

        This is something that peeves me on a regular basis. My American education has trained me to include everything inside the quotes. But I’m a technical writer. Which means I frequently write sentences like — Press “Start”. –. Very short and to the point. But I dislike putting the punctuation inside the quotes because I think it makes it look like the punctuation is part of the button name. But it isn’t. So I mostly break the rules and figure nobody but my boss maybe cares.

        Long writer rant. Granted I frequently abuse punctuation so it fits how I want sentences to look/flow.

        • Redwood Kim says:

          I know I was taught British-style, back in the day. It’s migrated. I personally don’t think most people really know, and “Press “Start”.” looks exactly right to me.

    • Amie says:

      My English heritage must come out in my writing, even though I have never been. Born, raised, and educated in America. I guess I always think when I put in my punctuation and quote marks and do what makes sense for the sentence. I never realized I was supposed to do it the other way. Hmmm…maybe I can start being lazy (nah, can’t do it). 🙂

  4. Librarian Betty says:

    I’m thinking about how much longer I want to be a teacher (and not in a good way). Somehow, I got stuck in a position where I am teaching scheduled classes and being evaluated as a teacher rather than as a librarian. I like being a librarian but I don’t get any time to be one anymore hence my thinking that it will be time to move on to something else in the future. Life’s too short to spend it doing something you don’t enjoy. Hopefully, my job will change back to being a librarian first next year (not a pie-in-the-sky thought, there are changes coming that strongly indicate this possibility). In the meantime though, I am sort of stuck dealing with the now– trying to be positive but resenting spending my time on stuff I loathe when I would rather be doing things I love.

  5. On a lark I read my horoscope on Tuesday (the paper was on the table I took over as my office space at Starbucks), and I’m still trying to figure out what it means:

    Because you’ve based your evaluations on logical assumptions, your conclusions have been pretty accurate so far. Don’t start to rely upon instincts or emotions that could be misleading.

    Which conclusions? Which instincts?

    My other big thought this week is whether or not to go to RWA’s national conference and can I find a roommate. The cost is insanely prohibitive for someone without a day job at the moment, but I need to network.

    Agh, the insanity. But I’m sure, nothing but good times ahead!

    Oh, and Rouan, if you’re going to be obsessed with anything from Bet Me, make it the chicken marsala! Jenny’s recipe is on Argh! and it’s the best. It’s become my teenage daughter’s signature dish.

  6. The range of topics inside my brain:

    I want to ditch my van and buy an electric car.

    How can I save my youngest from his school? It’s making him anxious and depressed.

    Should I go to NECRWA? It’s my favorite conference because the editors and agents actually read a sample of your work. But…the work isn’t fully revised. But…I get such a boost from being with other writers. But…the work isn’t fully revised. ERGH.

    Sometimes I feel like I’m losing my mind. I accept is as part of grieving, but it makes me want to scream.

    I’m looking forward to planting seeds with Five and starting our grand adventure as farmers-in-training.

    • Kieran says:

      Megan, about your youngest, we can’t save them from the stresses of school (unless you homeschool, which I did for 1 1/2 years b/c the stress on my oldest was crippling him). But if your guy is seriously anxious, just getting in there to talk to his teacher, the guidance counselors, and the principal really might help. Sometimes it’s getting a child from island to island. Talking will give him a boost for a few weeks or longer. And then he might slump again into those murky waters. So you talk again with the right people (including him, of course!!) and get him back on another island. And before you know it, the year is over.

      Our son with Aspergers in college sees a counselor every two weeks or so to talk about what’s going on in his world. This has been a major reason for his success in college. He’s a junior now, 6’3″, wears a leather jacket and Ray Bans nearly every day (his poppy’s leather jacket), has a Miami Vice-style beard, and looks incredibly imposing. No one would guess that this kid has had constant social skills intervention in his life since he was a toddler. Without it, I don’t know where he’d be…maybe the same place. But I seriously doubt it.

      I just can’t emphasize enough that a stressed child needs help, and people shouldn’t be afraid to go see counselors or intervene, even if the anxiety is just mild. Yes, Mom and Nana and the rest of the family all have good advice, but it makes more impact coming from someone else who’s trained to deal with kids with anxiety.

      I grew up in a time where people thought letting kids deal with this stuff on their own made them “strong.” To hell with that. I think of the years I wasted as a kid trying to counsel myself and buck up. Shit. It’s too late for regrets. But I swear if I’d had a third-party person in my life giving me a fresh perspective and calling out some bad things that were happening in my life–like family strife–that I simply rationalized, I seriously think I would have been a much more capable, balanced, healthy person earlier on in life. I think I’m pretty good now, but you shouldn’t have to reach my age to get there.

      Good luck!!!

      • Cindy says:

        I second this. My daughter’s illness causes anxiety, and she sees a counselor. It helps her a lot. I wish I’d taken her sooner…but again like Kieran, no time for regret.

      • German Chocolate Betty says:

        Yes, my 19-yr-old stepson wouldn’t made it as far as he has if my husband hadn’t kept after EVERYBODY (school, various therapists, you name it). DH was/is a pain in almost everybody’s neck, including the kid’s (and mine!), but I have to say that without it, the kid would have imploded. Seriously.

        The kid’s mother would have let him go down (she was leaving him alone evenings when he was 8 yrs old to go on dates, and didn’t feel it was her responsibility to help with schoolwork, that’s what teachers were for).

        There were times when I also thought, man, the kid has to fall on his face sometime, maybe _now_ would be good, because he would have time to recover.

        But, no, Dad just kept on pushing and pushing and pushing. And it is paying off.

        Someday the kid will even appreciate it. (I think on a certain level he already does…)

        • Kieran says:

          Geez, and now I see on the news that an 8th grader in Michigan just shot and killed himself in the school bathroom!!!!

          Dear God, it’s a high-pressure world for adults. Can you imagine being a kid these days? I don’t even have grandchildren yet and I’m already worried about them.

    • Kimberly, I’ve been wondering about nationals and if I could get a roommate if I decided to go. It is A LOT of money though. And maybe i should go to Ireland instead? But maybe I should room with you instead – if you haven’t found a roomie already?

    • I’d like to rescue my boys from their school too. The girls do fine, but school doesn’t seem to be set up for boys. All that sitting around and not enough doing. Plus one of their teachers flips out on a regular basis. Ugh.

      and I work here. double ugh.

  7. Kimberly, you could probably find more than one roommate. There are forums set up just for that. I’m a big proponent of the conference. Hope you can make it. 🙂

    Lani’s last sentence is what I’ve been thinking about. “…so all I can promise is my best effort.” I’ve never been in a creative field before. I guess radio is sort of creative, but that came so easily I never had to work at it. I have to work at the writing, and it’s time to present something new in the hopes they’ll want to buy it.

    And that means the doubts have arrived with a vengeance. What if I can’t come up with something as good as what I already have? What if I’m pigeonholed into writing repeats of what I’ve already done? What if I never sell another book ever again?!

    Man, this creative/artsy stuff is not for sissies.

  8. Pretty much my mind is stuck in the groove of getting ready to move, driving (with a friend) to Seattle, settling into a bedroom in my friends’ house, then finding work so I can move into my own place. That and “I’m not doing enough!”

    Every once in a while, my mind does flicker to the fact that I’ll be working the rest of my life because I have no retirement. Luckily, it then goes back to the move, finding work, etc. 🙂

    At least now my friend Sierra is here to help me pack and having here opens up my mind at least to conversation!

  9. I’ve been thinking (uh oh) about should I submit my last romantic suspense to the same publisher (I’ll have three RS out this year) or should I self pub. Or wait and self pub something else. Or submit my contemporary to the 3 editors who asked for a look see at conference last week…or self pub it.
    You can see where this is going can’t you? TOO MUCH bloody thinking and nothing will be accomplished. I keep telling myself there are no mistakes,just jump in and do something for heaven’s sake. : )

  10. Lois says:

    Zucchini bread.I took shredded zucchini out of the freezer and kept putting off making it. Finally made it this morning so I could take it on my road trip today! It is truly the story of my life of procrastination. Get something in mind, start it, move it around to get it out of the way of the rest of life, get irritated with it, resent it, make a big deal of it, finally do it when it is almost too late. I am going to try to remind myself of this when I start dragging my feet (or ass) about things.

  11. Carol says:

    I’ve been thinking about the current front end designs on cars. I’m driving a loaner. We rented a Prius in Phoenix a couple of weeks ago. Both cars are keyless, push a button to start, very eco friendly and I can’t see the front end of the car. Aerodynamic, yes. But, I like to know were the front end stops. I can’t see where the car ends in the front. I’m guessing. And the front angled windshield ends two arm lengths away. I have to stop, climb onto the seat and reach wa-a-a-a-a-y down to pick up the paper I put on the dash. Okay, so no papers on the dash. Attaching a GPS to the windshield, same deal. What’s up with that? Parallel parking could be a problem. Sheesh!

    My all time favourite dream car is still a Jag XKE. Of course, I’ll never have one and I would probably have to guess where the front end is, but, I would look damn good in it.

  12. I’ve been wondering about the causes of the First World War – just had to go and look this up on the BBC’s website. Feeling a lot better now. I’m reading some Berta Ruck, on Google Books. I’d been wanting to reread ‘His Official Fiancee’, long out of print. It’s a brilliant first novel, I think. A romcom written in the first person, in practically the present tense and a conversational style. Published in 1914 – so you’re instantly in that world, and moreover absolutely no need to worry about historical accuracy!

    Having loved this (despite one short bit of anti-Semitism, which is always a shock – but of course absolutely common at that time, unfortunately), I’ve gone on to ‘In Another Girl’s Shoes’, which isn’t quite as good, but still very readable. And this time (I think it was published in 1916 or 17) the heroine’s being judgemental about the Hun. Kind of fair enough at the time, though. We’re so used to seeing the past from our ‘evolved’ perspective, with lots of clunky exposition – cf ‘Downton Abbey’, etc. – that it’s a real surprise to suddenly see it differently.

    The thing about really good romantic comedies like this, is that you’re really inside another woman’s head. Social history from the inside!

  13. Rouan says:

    Kimberly, I made Chicken Marsala last week, following Jenny’s recipe, and it turned out well. Unlike Min, I used the ingredients specified…LOL.

  14. Bharti says:

    I have been thinking a lot about cancer and tumors. Another one popped up in the family recently and this week I was referred to a high risk breast cancer clinic. I HATE thinking about cancer and I HATE how much I already have in this life. Plus spring is no where in sight, despite what the calendar says and I wish I had that distraction.

  15. It all comes down to finances for me. I’d do this, except… and this is where the money issue come in. So money and if I can deal with not having a day job when I bring in $5000 one month and $500 the next from my books.

    And how obnoxious and belittling my dh has been lately. And why haven’t I taken steps about that? And, and, and.

    I was so hoping my boys would get into private boarding school, because then I would only have one child to take with me, but they didn’t.

    On the other hand the sun is shining on the snow and helping it melt. and my puppy is a delight and my kids are great, except they hate their life. the boys do, anyway.

    I do love the sun though…

  16. Jennifer says:

    Work was completely insane Monday and Wednesday, to the point where I had to go home and drink. So far today has been okay and nobody is bugging me (THANK GOD), because I don’t want to tick anyone else off any more.

    I had an interesting psychic thing happen to me and now I am wondering about it. Am debating taking a trip to see if said thing happens. It seems unlikely, but….

    I heard a good news rumor that I am hoping is true. Really hoping.

    I can’t wait for the week to be over.

  17. pamb says:

    Changing my life. Believing change is possible. Even more importantly, taking ACTION!

    I’m blessed & cursed with a “good” life that could be so much better if I’d DO more.

    But this time I’ve decided the answer isn’t unending To-Do lists. (g)

  18. Mmm, not really thinking about much other than the day to day minutia. I am deep in the middle of re-writing a book in preparation for a pitch to an editor next month and I had a few breakthroughs today I am anxious to start. It’s a good story and I hope the editor likes my ideas. Other than that nebulous thought I am a blank.

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