Krissie: The Weather Gods

Photo on 12-20-13 at 9.13 AM The Weather Gods are having a temper tantrum. So Wednesday was decent enough to get to my shrink, though the roads were still a little funky. Yesterday … short delay while Phantom climbs onto my chest, purrs a lot, looks for a place to lie, then gives up and goes over to lie on Richie’s lap.Photo on 12-20-13 at 9.27 AM … yesterday I took Richie to the eye doctor at the crack of dawn, thinking he’d need drops and have a hard time driving. Turns out he didn’t but we had breakfast at Panera and talked about what we want for Christmas. (I’ll get to that). But then we get a dumping of snow today, lots of rain tomorrow and then Sunday a major ice storm. Good idea that I finally gave up on the idea of going down to NJ until right after Christmas. That way I don’t need to worry about getting back if the weather continues to be “active” as they sweetly put it.
So I just need to make sure we have what we need in the house and we’ll just hole up.
In the meantime …
What I meant by what Richie and I want for Christmas is more what Richie and I want get from Christmas. It worked very well when I decided ahead of time what Disney was going to be. No mourning dead people, no letting anyone rain on my parade.
This year we’ll be missing Kaim, who’s staying out in SF (though we sent her a big package of goodies), and it’ll be Richie and me and Tim, Erin and Alex. Tim is, shall we put it, volatile. And I was thinking I would be at the mercy of his moods and we’d have a wretched time … and then I remembered that I claimed a lovely time at Disney despite his moods, just by sheer will.
So Richie and I decided we want to cuddle on the couch with Christmas tea (we like Celestial Seasonings) and watch the lights on the tree. (Richie made a crack about having the fire on the tv — I don’t care — I like it). If there are moods and temper we’ll just let it wash over us, unless it’s directed at us.
Not that I’m blaming Tim — he’s treated like the skeleton at the feast with Erin’s family, and it hurts his feelings and then he gets grumpy etc etc. But I’m not going there — he needs to work it out. I can’t fix it for him.
But we’ll keep things simple and relaxed, not get caught up in anyone else’s drama. Not get caught up in cozy ads of family gathering together, because there is no extended family.
I haven’t seen Mini-me in 15 months, and she’s my only family. So that makes me sad too. She’s been too busy, and she had to make so many flights in 2012 with her FIL dying and Moomaw (my mother) that she’s had to stay put. But I miss her.
So, no family gathering around. (Mini-me will be on the slopes in Tahoe, teaching children how to ski).
But I’ve got Richie. We can dance in the kitchen to “Layla.” I’m giving good presents that will make people’s lives more comfortable and give them pleasure. I’m not getting much in the present department but that’s okay, I’m prepared. Besides, I like to give more than I like to receive (and I really like to receive).
I got a fabulous present from Lani, and I know Jenny will have bizarre and wondrous things. And we’ll have a Goddess Gathering in the new year. so life is good.
But now I better get into gear and do all the things I gotta do before Christmas comes.

10 thoughts on “Krissie: The Weather Gods

  1. Deb says:

    The projected weather is playing havoc with my shopping needs for the holidays–which is making me a little nuts. But your plans of sitting in front of the tree, sipping tea, and watching the lights sounds perfect.

    Wishing you and your family peace and joy and health and happiness for the holidays.


  2. I hope the weather doesn’t get too bad up there. Sounds like you have the right idea. I can’t get home to the extended family until January, so we won’t have a big gathering here either. But kiddo and I will find something to do. We’re considering a movie.

    I’ve had all these goals for this week and have hit very few of them. My to-dos have been foiled again today. I think I’m going to throw my hands in the air and give up. I’m getting frustrated and that’s not how I want to spend my holiday.

  3. I’m glad you’ve decided how you want your Christmas to be, you and Richie. You did a fab job with Disney — you can totally do this!

    With Mom gone, I’ve kind of given up expectations regarding the holidays, which isn’t a bad thing. I’ll be spending the 24th-26th with the same family as the past two years, the ones with my fake nephew and niece. It’ll be fun and low-key and I’ve crocheted small gifts for three of them and am starting on the fourth today. Then I’ll get to spend a day, or maybe a couple and a night, with another friend. We’ll eat good food and drink wine and tea and she’ll work on showing me more about knitting (my goal is socks). And my noise-averse housemate is even playing Christmas music right now! It’s definitely time to write out more cards.

  4. Mine will be a simple holiday too. Kids are off to NYC. I spent time with a big family get-together in late Nov early Dec so I feel like I’ve already enjoyed the Holiday season. Part of me feels a tiny bit blue (maybe pastel) over the fact that I’ll be alone, but the other part says selfishly more time to write while everyone else is busy. : )

    Wishing you hot dancing in the kitchen.

  5. Lynda says:

    Sounds like a plan, Krissie. I’m glad that you decided to postpone your trip to NJ, just because I worried about you taking unnecessary risks, but mostly I’m glad that you and Richie are together and still dancing.

    Merry Christmas!

  6. I sincerely hope that the weather stays clear all next week in Jersey because I’ll be driving all over the state to see as many friends and family members as possible.

    Have a fabulous holiday, Krissie, Richie and all of the ReFabbers!

  7. Lois says:

    We lived through our ‘fake Xmas’ on Wed. I got the tree up, the gifts wrapped (I quit at 2 am)and found the dining room table.
    After 35 years this will be the first actual Christmas morning my husband and I will just be the 2 of us. I’m glad to not be traveling anywhere.

  8. A little dream of mine is to have the whole family enjoy a white Christmas together. I’d have to fly everyone to either Europe or the US. But I can do without the ice storm…I’ve seen pictures.

    We’re shoving tables together in my living room to seat 11. Everyone is bringing something. My back has been out for the past couple of weeks, so I’m *not* going to look at what’s going on in the kitchen and let my DD’s take over.

    I wish everyone a Very Merry Christmas and a Happy Safe 2014 🙂

  9. Micki says:

    Love that last sentence. I was getting myself in a tizzy about a work seminar we’re doing on the 26th and 27th . . . and then I realized, it’s dark and cold, and I don’t want to be frustrated by the drama any more. I want to enjoy some Christmas spirit. So, I’m doing what I can to make the seminar great, and if my co-worker needs soothing or different “emergency plans,” he needs to handle that himself. Nothing I do makes him happy, anyway.

    Let go, and enjoy the pretty sparklies.

  10. Micki says:

    Buddhist country, so I have to work all Christmas week. I let go of all expectations for Christmas dinner — I might have an Epiphany Turkey, though. I’ll pick up some yummy MOS chicken legs after work, and we’ll have some Christmas cake, and call it a holiday.

    We get Monday off for Solstice, though, so I can finish my holiday cards, and get the presents wrapped. Going out to lunch with the ladies in my recycling group — we take the money we get off of recycling a year’s worth of newspaper, cardboard and cans, and spend it on a lunch at a fancy restaurant. I’ve heard good things about the restaurant’s dinner this year, so I’m looking forward to the lunch, as well!

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