Krissie: Okay, I’m doing the best I can

Photo on 2013-02-28 at 10.54 That slightly gloomy expression is right after calling my IRS case worker (I get my own special person). It’s not that bad — she’s very nice and we’ve just been waiting for a certified letter. Last time I called her (at Christmas time) I was in tears and she said “it’s only money.” Ha!
But that’s no biggie. Look at my hair. I’ve decided to get it trimmed and shaped. I’m loving it long, but it’s getting a little ragged. Tomorrow’s our anniversary and Richie likes it shorter (the only man in the world who likes their woman with shorter hair) but he’s not getting it. But it’ll look a little better once it’s shaped (tomorrow afternoon).
I need to start tracking my time better. I missed three doctor’s appointments yesterday — one at 2 pm with my therapist. I called on that one, because I was halfway there and we had a sudden mini-blizzard (about 4 inches in two hours). But apparently an hour earlier I had an appointment with a psychiatrist about my meds (in the next town over, so I would have been late seeing Ellen) and then found I’d missed a one o’clock appt. (same time as the shrink) with my eye doctor, who was 25 miles away over a mountain pass.
I will now write down my appointments, damn it. I need a calendar stuck on my wall.
I did write down my hair appointment, and my colonoscopy appt. (who can forget that?) and my rheumatology appointment.
So. Organization. just a small step.
And everyone was so smart yesterday. God, I love this place. Writer blogging seems all about talking about how glorious you are and there’s no give and take. Well, Jenny and Lani have give and take, but most blogs …
But this is a community, full of such wisdom. And thanks for the Salmon of Correction, Pam B. I needed it.
Okay, here’s what I’ve decided. My office comes first, because I need to be comfortable to write. I’m also pretty sure this book wants to be written long hand, so while I’m working on the office I can write anywhere (as long as no one’s around).
I’m going to take pictures of this place, lots of pictures, but I’m not going to do anything until I get back. I need Jenny’s help with a color scheme (I know what I want, but I need her to help me refine it. She’s going to help me redesign my kitchen and choose colors for my living room (if we get around to it). I want to feel comfortable and happy in my house again.
Anyway, lots of pictures and plans and advice sought coming up. For now I’ll get to work writing.

33 thoughts on “Krissie: Okay, I’m doing the best I can

  1. Oooooh, I will make floor plans and we will go get paint chips. Bring the fabrics you want to use in the rooms. SO MUCH FUN I CAN’T STAND IT.

  2. Definitely write down your appointments. I not only write them in a purse-sized calendar, I enter them into my calendar on my computer. And I set alarms for them. I used to have a bad time with forgetting and double-booking, you see, so I understand.

    It’s so cool that you and Jenny are going to work on colors and stuff for your house so you can make it all shiny and pretty and homey again. What fun!

    Glad you are writing.

  3. Yeah if I don’t write it down I don’t remember it. That’s for sure.
    Hey, I’m getting my roots done and my hair trimmed tomorrow afternoon, too.
    We’ll both be in different salons with different beauticians in different parts of the country around the same time. Hehehe. Means nothing but fun to think about.

  4. Sounds like spring is here with all of this talk of trimming and coloring. : )
    I have a calendar above my desk and I put my appts. on that. Every day I cross the day off with a big blue X. My ex used to say I acted like I was in prison. But if I don’t do that, then I’ll never know which day of the week it is.

  5. I still haven’t figured out a system that totally works. Used to use Franklin Covey’s system, but that feels like too much work when there’s not a dayjob to actively track, etc. Google Calendar is about as close as I get, and it will send / throw up reminders at you Krissie. Even for free, since you already have GMail.

  6. My Outlook and Google calendars are synced, so I have everything on my phone and on my computer on my desk. I see everything on my desktop each morning and can set reminders on my phone, which is pretty much always in my pocket. Google calender rocks!

  7. Sometimes I’m awful about appointments, sometimes I’m good. It just depends on what’s going on in my life. I need to make some changes here too. The last time we painted it was what my mother-in-law wanted. Needless to say I get irritated every time I walk in the kitchen!

  8. You’re doing so well, Krissie.

    Jenny – have you always been from a craft-y background, or was it a needs-must sorta thing? (‘Scuse me, my Whedonism is showing.)

    Seriously – I want to try my hand at practical woodwork and always have (since high school) but I’ve not made any of my ideas, simple as they are. I have access to tools – folks are capable, just want to do it myself.

  9. Catherine says:

    I find putting appointments into the phone helpful. I often do this at the doctor’s / hairdresser’s counter. Soon afterwards I set up reminders too. Usually one for the day before and then one an hour before.

    Trying to record things on cards or slips of paper used to fool me into thinking I knew what was going on. They get lodged somewhere in my short term memory and then shoved aside for something more interesting with texture and colour.

    I used to beat myself up pretty well over this until my metaphorical arms grew weary of pounding. I don’t know why I expected I can remember all the things all of the time. However since I’ve started the phone entries it has really helped. Well it helps more when I started leaving my phone on the charger too 🙂

    New colours in your home sounds like a lot of fun. Good for you. Even more joyful doing it with Jenny.

  10. Kieran says:

    Have you ever seen Million Dollar Decorators? I don’t care that he’s gay and I’m straight and married–I have a huge crush on Martyn. I want to be his girl BFF. Mary is so pent up and cold, in a way. I adore Kathryn’s style; Jeffrey’s fun to watch, too. Krissie, you’d be all over Martyn. You have to see that show if you haven’t already!!!

  11. H says:

    I am a slave to Google Calendars. I have one for work stuff, one for personal stuff, one for kid stuff. Everything goes in the Calendar, and if it’s really important, I set it up so that a text-alert reminder gets sent to my phone about an hour before the event.

    Really. I do that.

    I also keep an old-fashioned wall calendar in the laundry room right by the door to the garage, and I put all the family/kid stuff on it — notes about field trips and Scout events and what nights I’m working late and when the hubs is traveling for work. I try to sit down with it on Sunday evening and go through the week with everyone. When we’re really really organized we plan dinners, too.

    I am still late to many things. I still completely space out meetings sometimes. But I’m better about it than I used to be. I have to be or I’d be unemployed and homeless in Greenland.

  12. Lynda says:

    Go for it, Sure Thing!! My beloved father was a very good carpenter, and something I’ve always regretted is that when I was a child back in the Olden Days, I never asked him to teach me any of his skills.

  13. Happy anniversary!

    I have a write-on/erasable calendar on the front of my fridge. Every month, I take all the appointments from my wallet and/or wall calendar and appt cards and write them on the fridge one, adding in any late-comers as they arise. That way I can look at the fridge (which sadly, I am in front of numerous times a day) and know where I’m supposed to be for the day. I also add notes like “PAY BILLS! or Call X” for things that must be done on any particular day.

    Without it, I’d never know where I was supposed to be.

  14. Micki says:

    Calendars are so nice. I’m fascinated with them, and I wish I used them better. They are not only great reminders, but they are great diaries, as well. My husband is always checking back on his calendar to figure out when he had the oil changed or something like that, and as I said before, my MIL is a whiz with her garden calendar.

    I have so many days where I think there’s nothing worth recording that I find it hard to keep it up. Then I get in trouble in March/April when all these busy things start to pile up (end of the school year, beginning of the next here).

  15. Susanne says:

    We have a plain calendar on the fridge, and I write things down. When it comes to missed appointments — don’t you get in trouble or billed 🙁 ?

    The older I get, the earlier I am. Sad. I used to clip along…now I sit in waiting rooms with my e-reader.

    Enjoy your anniversary, Krissie. Richie sounds like a wonderful man.

    And Robena, I laughed and laughed when I read how your ex said you acted like you were in prison when you crossed off the calendar days.

    When my Dad was in the process of being diagnosed with dementia, the first question always was, “Do you know what day it is?” So now, I spend a lot of time in front of the calendar so when my turn comes, I’ll have the right answer 🙂

  16. JulieB/Julie Spahn says:

    I can’t wait to see. We’ll be cheering you on from the sidelines. And, many of us understand the need to pare down and spruce up. This makes me in the mood for spring cleaning/decorating too!

  17. If I didn’t have a calendar, I would be totally lost. I have one on the wall and one in my purse. Everybody’s stuff goes on and I color code with highlighters. Yellow for appointments, blue for scouts, pink for school related stuff, green for my son’s job, purple for college crap, etc. That way I can tell from across the room what’s coming up. I couldn’t imagine trying to remember all of it. Yikes.

    Enjoy your anniversary!

  18. Reb says:

    Yeah, me too. Dad would’ve taught me wood-turning if I’d asked. I wasn’t interested as a kid and now he isn’t here.

  19. Eileen A-W says:

    Happy anniversary! Enjoy yourselves. I love the long hair & I do have a husband who loves long hair. I put all the appointments on a big calendar on the fridge – that is color coded by person & into my phone. Okay, we know I’m a math teacher, so with 4 kids and needing to be organized color coding works for us. I have found that you just need to find a system that will work for you.

  20. Tara says:

    Happy Anniversary!
    Since I make all the appointments for my 3 kids and myself I had to find a way to organize it. As I make an appointment (while I’m standing there/on the phone) I enter it into the calendar on my phone. I also get a card from the place and attach it to our family wall calendar. When I write the appointments on the calendar I use blue ink for the kids, red for us parents, and black for my father in law (he live with us). Using the wall calendar gives everyone a visual reference and my phone keeps keep me from double booking 🙂
    Since you seem to be comfortable with technology, make it work for you, outlook, google and most e-mail programs have calendars and reminders that work very well. If you have a smartphone you may be able to link it to your e-mail calendar. Just an idea 🙂

  21. Good luck, Krissie! Your plans sound fun and doable. Small steps add up.

    I have never been natually organized but there are so many lives I have to manage now I have no choice. I have a day planner that sits on my kitchen table. Every Sunday I open it up and transcribe the week onto two 2X3 whiteboards that hang on my kitchen wall. That way I see where I’m supposed to be about twenty times a day. If it doesn’t get put on the white board, it doesn’t happen. I’ve started entering the week on my phone calendar and using that when I’m out in the world but I’ve got to take the plunge soon and switch everything to the computer so I’m synched up. I’m resisting.

  22. My sister the interior designer says you shouldn’t have anything in your house you hate. (Unfortunately, we can’t always apply that to people.) So paint away while I haul my kitchen table up to the trash!

  23. Office Wench Cherry says:

    When I first started this job my supervisor was going on about the glories of the calendar that comes with Outlook. I’m afraid I stared at her blankly and then asked the receptionist to order me a desk calendar. I’m a paper person. Things have to be written down.

  24. Chris S. says:

    I’m with you. If I dont’ physically write it down, it’s forgotten. Occasionally, I’ll send myself an email reminder of work tasks that need accomplishing — so that I can write them down ON PAPER the next day.

    It’s not just that I’m a total technomoron (programmable calendars bewilder me): something about the physical act of writing helps create a memory. Typing doesn’t have the same effect.

  25. German Chocolate Betty says:

    I use the Outlook calendar PLUS a small purse-sized calendar. Outlook because 1) appts are automatically entered for me by boss, project partners, etc., 2) we have to because the secy needs to know all of our appts and whether we are in/out of house and when, 3) it automatically sends me reminders 15 mins before that mtg, teleconference, whatever.

    My purse calendar is there to help me remember stuff when I am not in the office. Hardest part is remember to sync with the electronic version…sigh.

  26. I’m terrible at remembering appointments. I put reminders in my gmail calendar and write them on the calendars at home. Bought a date book/planner since I knew I’d be booking guest blogs and launching things and having to meet editing deadlines. Been very helpful so far.

    Kiddo got strep at the beginning of the week, which meant I had to reschedule 2 of her appointments. I think I might have only moved one of them by a day and then skipped it completely. I should call and check on that.

    Can’t wait to see the redecorating choices. I YEARN to fix up my house. (Putting flooring back over the concrete would make my year.) Have fun storming the paint store!

  27. PG says:

    Yes, the calendar function on a phone — even older phones usually have this function — is my lifesaver. I have the event alarms set to go off 15 or 30 minutes before I have to be there (depending on how far away the thing is). Written calendars are nice but require you to look at the calendar on a regular basis. Hard to miss your phone going off with “DENTIST” on the screen.

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