Krissie: Girding My Loins

Naaah, don’t want to talk about She Who Will Not Be Named today. She takes up way too much of my time.
Instead, I’m thinking about focusing on food. I bounced up to 230 and have stayed there, no higher, no lower (well, between 230.6 and 230.3) even though I’ve stopped being indulgent. Maybe it’s the stress. I made oatmeal again, after a couple of weeks break (it’s about 65 on the deck so it’s not too warm for oatmeal) so that should fill me up in the morning. Haven’t been eating even whole grain bread, though I had wild and brown rice last night with chicken breast and low-fat mango curry.
Eating even more salads. Fewer goldfish.
Ah, but no exercise. Well, standing around for long periods of time in between singing “How do you solve a problem like Maria” which is painful but not burning calories. I pulled out a lot of my 2x t-shirts to give away and suddenly thought, what if I completely fail at this? I’ve been coasting for too long.
But then I remembered that this is a really tough time for me. Holding steady is good. Once this is over, my mother is stashed back in her apartment with supports in place, then I can focus on my own life. Much as I’m trying to, I still gotta move her from column A to Column B.
I’m going to pick up my new glasses in the big city today. I’ll swing by the rehab center and talk to them and pop in to see my mother (and pop right out again depending on her behavior). That should give me a hint as to how she’ll be when she gets home.
Ooops, back to talking about Her.
Anyway, I’m off to the big city, where I’ll buy myself a present (god knows what, but I deserve it) and tomorrow you’ll get to see me with lovely glasses. Tomorrow I’ll do my duty, and then it’ll be warm enough to swim again, and after rehearsal I’ll float in the pool and listen to the new SEP book and have an utterly fabulous time. You gotta grab joy where you can.
Which is all part of being fabulous, I think.

26 thoughts on “Krissie: Girding My Loins

  1. I hope you find something fun! Maybe a new spice mix that will make lower calorie healthy foods fun? Or a cool hat, for wearing while outside listening to the fabu SEP.

    You rock.

  2. Katie says:

    Can’t wait to see the new glasses! And it sounds like you’re in a much better place with regards to SWWNBN. Enjoy the big city, the float and the audio treat!

  3. Have a good day and enjoy yourself. From my vantage point, you are a very good duaghter. My father is very much like your mother and for the sake of my mental health, I haven’t had anything to do with him in almost 20 years. Whether she knows it or not, your mother is very lucky.

  4. Can’t wait to see the new glasses. My eye appointment is next Monday and I cannot wait to get my new ones. The ones I have now are not right for me and the lens way too thick for these frames.

  5. Have a nice visit to the city and buy something fabulous just for you…even if it’s a frozen yogurt with strawberries. I love the idea of reading SEP’s book while floating in the pool. Haven’t bought my book yet ’cause I’m in copyedits and that is taking every ounce of brain activity and then some. This weekend I’ll get it and that will by my treat for a job well done. : )

  6. Gin says:

    Based just on my own experience, I’m a big believer in the set-point theory of weight maintenance: that once you hit a new set-point, your body will compensate by increasing/decreasing metabolism to keep you there, almost no matter what you eat or don’t eat (over the course of a few days, not long-term).

    With persistence, you can break the set-point, and create a new one. For me, it’s usually that “one more day” of healthy eating that does it. And that’s the day when I’m most tempted to over-eat, when I’m discouraged, plus my body’s trying desperately to hang onto that set-point. But if I can get through that one day without a binge, I’ll see a weight drop the next day.

    So, if you’ve been eating healthy foods for several days, it could just be that one more day of healthy eating will disrupt the set-point enough to start losing again.

  7. Holding steady IS good. SEP is going to be in my town for a book signing next week. I haven’t been to a book signing in ages but I definitely am going to this one. I’m all fan girl excited!

  8. C.G. Morrison says:

    I am a great believer in you do what you can while they are alive. What you can may not be what they need…there was no way to fill the well of need that was my mother…but it’s the best you can do. That’s what you are doing for your mother. In your case, you have to deal with the crazy too, but you are doing the right thing by distancing yourself from it. I have had to do that as well.

    You are coping with the stress, taking care of yourself, loving yourself. Don’t buy into the vitriol. You know better. Take care, and keep on trucking.

  9. Have fun in the Big City! Just try not to spend too much or you’ll have guilt to take the fun out of it! Hope your visit with your mother goes well.

  10. Mariana Chaffee says:

    I don’t know if there are shopping delivery services where your mother is, but if so, you could have the things she needs delivered. And maybe if, when she starts berating you, you smiled sweetly and said something like “Gee Mom, I didn’t realize what time it is. Gotta run, bye.” Every. Single. Time. she does it! Don’t let her abuse you — leave. Politely. She needs an audience. Don’t give her one.

    This may or may not work — her behavior sounds as if it’s pretty well set in stone. But you have been an exemplary daughter, and you have no obligation to submit to abuse (nobody does). You are fabulous, and there are ways to make sure that she is well cared for without endangering yourself. Reinventing fabulous is about taking good care of yourself. Do that.

  11. Anjemon says:

    Seconding what Gina said!

    I read some article (somewhere of course not bookmarked) that talked about this. That when you lose weight your body assumes that it’s because you’re starving (not having food available kind of starving). And when you’re starving you need all the body mass you have. So at a certain point it becomes very hard to convince it to let go of anything. But with perseverance you can get past that point and things should be back to normal.

    As a stress eater, I can say “Congrats!” just for maintaining through this nasty period. It’s hard to focus on making good choices when you’re stressed. And your body probably is dealing with hormonal stuff and not concentrating on weight loss.

  12. Kathryn says:

    It’s important to remember that the song is actually, “How do you solve a problem like my rear.” Yes, I know the sheet music says something else.
    The sheet music is incorrect.

    And, oh, yeah. Your life is not a remake of Now Voyager. And you are certainly not mousy Charlotte Vale. Generally in life, people will treat us how we allow them to treat us. Do. not. allow it. Giiiirrrrd.

  13. Micki says:

    I love it when you have a plan! It sounds like you are turning off your mother like a light switch — but in this case it is a good thing because you HAVE dealt with her basic needs. So save energy, and just turn it off.

    My weight is creeping up a tiny bit, but it’s hard to say what the deal is. The scale says my body fat is actually at a low for the last several weeks, so I might not be that bad off.

    (But I do know what the deal is: I’m teaching in town for three weeks, where there are grocery stores tempting me after work. I need to go home and have some pretzels and yogurt, or iced ginger tea, instead of chips and an ice cream. Country schools make it so much easier to stick to this resolve!)

  14. Kelly S. says:

    SEP was in my town tonight! I went to her signing. They played the beginning of her new book in audio format. It was great fun and she looked stunning as always.

    Also, I asked if her desk was still clean. She said it wasn’t. Lovely lady.

    Enjoy the book Krissie!

  15. Ylva Hedin says:

    Oh new glasses! 🙂 I love getting new ones! 😉 grabbing joy whereever and when ever is the right thing to do! 🙂

  16. Lovely getting new glasses. The right frames can make you feel great. The lenses are important too, of course. 😉

    Don’t take any nastiness from your mother. Grab the joy and have a fantastic time!

  17. I can just imagine you strapping on armor to go into the big city with, lol! I’m loving this attitude of yours, by the way. Keeping your eyes on the bright side is underrated! Hugs dear!

  18. Maria says:

    I was just told about a company that makes salad dressings and sauces that have no fat and use Splenda. My WW (Weight Watchers) leader swore by the coleslaw dressing. AH! Found it in the jumble of my memory bank – Walden Farms. This is why I thought of you when she mentioned it because you are in New England, is Vermont considered part of New England, hmmm? You know the whole On Walden Pond thing. Truly, my brain is not some place other people want to be with the weird and strange connections I attach to things.

    As for your current song choice, let me be clear, there is no way to solve a problem like Maria BECAUSE Maria is not a problem. Maria is wonderful. She takes letters, if you whisper her name it sounds like a prayer, she’s in magazines (Justin Bieber), she’s smooth as silk (Blondie), she’s a special woman (Ricky Martin), she’s a gypsy lady (B. W. Stevenson/Brooks &Dunn). Yes, Maria is a miracle; she’s sunlight. {wink}

    Just sayin’

  19. kathie says:

    Kelly! Are you in Lansing? I didn’t go to the signing, but I live right around the corner from Schulers.

  20. Kelly S. says:

    I am! More or less. Small world! Sad that you missed the signing. I also saw SEP at MSU this morning. I showed her how to get to Beal Gardens as the construction makes navigation challenging.

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