All About You (Krissie)

Photo on 12-21-12 at 7.46 AM Daniel’s home, and we’ve managed to slip into calling him Daniel and using the masculine pronoun with no difficulty at all. Tim is having his ups and downs in Tahoe but I’m hoping more up than down. I had to miss my Al-Anon meeting, which was not a Good Thing, The roads were icy, trucks were sliding around, and a tanker was stalled on a hill. No way I was going to try to pass it, no way to go around, so I turned around and came back.
At least we’ve got snow, though it’s going to be in the 50’s in a couple of days so no white Christmas. Which is just as well, since I have to go to the graveyard to light luminarias on the graves of all the dead ones … Jesus, no wonder I’m fighting depression.
But I digress …
(Just a small bah humbug – I watched the George C. Scott version of a Christmas Carol and felt as manipulated as I do when I watch a Hallmark movie. I doubt the Cratchits were any happier than the working poor today. Then again, I’ve always hated Charles Dickens except for a Christmas Carol, so now I can add that. Though I still love A Muppet Christmas Carol. And I bet Alastair Sim wouldn’t have made me feel manipulated).
How are you guys doing? Going crazy? Fighting off the holiday blues? Done your shopping and cooking and sewing? Family arrived to the smell of brewing coffee?
Stop it, Krissie.
We’ll go see Star Wars tomorrow night. And all will be well, all manner of things shall be well.
So enough about ol’ Ebenezer here in Vermont. How’s about you? Photo on 12-21-15 at 9.42 AM

And a little quiz. One of those photos is from this morning, one from three years ago. Can you tell which?
Oh, I just heard that it’s the Solstice! Okay, I’ll celebrate the Solstice and short days! That I can be into.

16 thoughts on “All About You (Krissie)

  1. Lynda says:

    I’m very glad that Daniel made it safely home. I hope you all have a lovely Christmas, whether or not it is white. Of course we never have snow here, thank God, but we are getting rain, which practically counts as a Christmas miracle. Due to medical and family concerns I have lost every bit of Christmas feeling I had, which wasn’t much to begin with. Instead I am getting lost in rereading THE DAY OF THE JACKAL, which is a great book and about as unChristmasy as it is possible to get. I will go to my son’s house on Friday, and I do hope that sometime this week I see the Star Wars movie before people start spoiling it for me. And that’s about it. (Oh, I’m guessing that the second picture is from today because your hair is shorter. ) God bless us every one.

  2. Maine Betty says:

    I hope you enjoy the Star Wars movie as much as I did, it’s really good. So glad you can accept your child’s change. It’s confusing, at least I find it so, but the thing is that it’s really about love, and you are really good at that.

  3. lynn says:

    Happy Solstice!! I even have a solstice party to go to tonight, although I am so deep in my own winter blues that I do not want to go. I would rather just stay home and pull the blankets over my head, as I have been doing whenever possible lately. Chances are good that 90% of the invitees feel the same way, so maybe we will all go anyway and light the bonfire, drink wine, and possibly have fun in spite of ourselves. Tomorrow, I can look forward to one whole extra second of daylight!

    Have a lovely solstice and a Merry Christmas with your family, Krissie.

  4. Glad to hear that Daniel is home and happy. It’s going to be toasty here for Christmas, but I’m okay with that. Spending Christmas Eve afternoon with Mollie’s family, then home for Christmas with the dogs, which is always excellent. Wrapping presents this afternoon, going out for batteries and groceries tomorrow, praying the rest of the Christmas presents come in before the 24th.

    Second picture is now. I remember the first one.

  5. Happy Solstice! From now on, there will be a little more light every day, and that’s worth celebrating. (As is the fact that here in upstate NY, we are getting rain instead of our usual snow.)

    I run an artist’s cooperative shop with 50 artists, which is always crazy at the holidays, but even more so this year. Plus my step-daughter is here for a few weeks from CA and struggling with being back (as always) and with the fact that this is almost certainly her mom’s last Christmas. We actually had our first ever fight (in 30+ years), but then followed it up with some much-needed plain talk from both sides, which was good, because it was pretty horrid here for a couple of days.

    Mostly I’m just trying to hang on until January. When I will deal with my past-due manuscript. Ho ho ho?

    Still, I’m feeling grateful for lots of things including the fact that my Yule dinner party on Saturday went well, and that it is supposed to be 60 degrees here for Christmas Day. Huzzah!

  6. How strange the season is this year. I think we’re colder in the desert than you guys are back east. It feels good though.

    Glad Daniel is back and you get to spend a little time with him. Enjoy the movie and celebrate all of the small joys because they tend to snowball and make for a bigger joy.
    I’m off today to do some Ho Ho Hoing, which is always nice.

    And to all the Refabbers: Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! Enjoy the Season!

  7. Jessie says:

    We are having a wet, windy December with about 11 or more inches of rain so far in the month. We are sprouting leaks in a house we thought was totally weather tight by now. We have lived in it for 31 years so this was a surprise.

    Yesterday my husband and his sister drove from Portland to Woodinville (north of Seattle) to have lunch with their sister and her family and then drove back. A total of about 400 miles. There was torrential rain and heavy traffic so it was slow going. They were gone 13 hours and 10 of it was in the car. I declined to go with them since I am not wild about driving 400 miles in a day in good weather. And I still think they were insane.

    My cards are sent, my presents are bought. The lights are up outside. I will have a small Christmas dinner for family on the 23rd and go stay with friend on Christmas day. I am good.

    I vote that the top picture is from 3 years ago. I remember the throw on the back of the chair and the family pictures in the background.

  8. Kelly S. says:

    I’m with everyone else and believe the top photo is from 3 years ago and the bottom is from today.

    I also think Robena is right and encourage you to focus on the small joys, the things you can be grateful about, and they will help you feel a greater joy. If there are things you are dreading doing because they are a tradition for you, perhaps it is time to end those traditions and make new ones that you enjoy.

    Michigan is unusually warm as well. Typically wet though. I’m loving the warmer winter, but I don’t want it to get so warm the plants and trees think it spring only to be brutally shut down with a burst of cold. That has happened twice since moving here and it often kills the plants or does damage.

    Christmas decorations are up inside and out. Christmas letter is written but needs to be printed and sent. Gifts are bought and need wrapping. We’ll be visiting my folks and they are always happy to see us. Given that I’m an only child, it will be quiet unlike my husband’s side with 5 siblings who all reproduced. Plus we’ll visit extended family. We’ll also get back as soon as possible so the cats don’t suffer too much from the change in routine plus we like being home more than visiting others. I guess we like our routine too.

  9. That’s a great question, Kathy! I was wondering the same thing. FWIW, Krissie, my niece had carol singing and a balloon release at my sister’s grave on Saturday–the one-year anniversary of Kate’s death. Both PJ and I opted not to go–the drama with her kids has been excruciating for both of us and exposing ourselves to another round of it was just more than we could handle. I doubt my niece was pleased, but I had a peaceful Saturday taking Christmas rolls to friends and neighbors, and I’m fairly confident Kate was smiling down as I delivered a Merry Christmas to folks I love.

  10. MJ says:

    Raising my head from work to discover it’s nearly Christmas. One more project (Lord save me, trying to figure out which copy in 15 pages about transmissions the client changed) and then I can clear space upstairs so our daughter has a place to sleep–though, thanks to an airline snafu, tonight she’s at a hotel in Cincinnati. En route from California to Wisconsin. Uh-huh. Also, tomorrow I’m taking the train into Chicago for lunch with two of my sisters, something we’ve never done (usually kids and spouses involved). Then all the usual family stuff, and a few days of relaxing.

    To all Refabbers – best wishes for increasing happiness and light!

  11. I think the bottom photo is from today because you don’t feel like pulling a robe on because your shoulder hurts.

    I like what Kelly S said about new traditions. I knew a widower who was too sad for traditional holidays so he took his two small children out to Disneyland or Knotts Berry Farm. The kids were happy and it became a new tradition that made him happy. . At least, until he remarried.

    With Daniel home and happy, it’s great timing for new traditions.

  12. We had a dusting of snow on the weekend which delighted my niece who was visiting from San Diego. Since then, grey and wet. Not Christmasy at all. I’m struggling to keep my spirits up too – my mother is still settling into her new home/city and it’s a slower process than everyone assumed. Plus, my best friend has to have more testing to rule out breast cancer. I’m trying to focus on the moments and appreciate what I have – not always easy for a worrier.

    Wishing you a very happy holiday.

  13. Kieran says:

    Getting ready for a big Christmas with lots of family staying when my senior in high school called from a friend’s house crying that one of his dear baseball buddies from 8th grade was killed in a horrific car accident, and two other senior boys are in the iCU fighting for their lives.

    What do you say? Nothing, really. We just hugged for a long time when he came home.

    Reality. When it’s stark, it’s hard. But you also really SEE, Krissie. You see that all that matters is love. So I agree with Kathy…if going to the graveyard destroys your serenity, then reconsider going, perhaps?

    But if going somehow brings you to that place where you see what really matters, then you have the option to take heart and sustenance from that. That’s a powerful place to be. It can bolster you, not drain you.

    In the end, it all comes down to your choosing whether or not seeing is what you want to do. Is it something you want to embrace? Or avoid?

    My personal opinion is that when we run from seeing, we grow weaker. You’re a tough mom. Here you have Daniel undergoing a huge change. And then you have your son making a big change as well. You’ve weathered so, so much, and you’re still standing.

    So for you I hope that you can go to the graveyard and come away nurtured by the fact that you and the truth are companions, good companions who respect each other. Truth even makes an excellent BFF if you let her in. She’s not a bullshitter. Sometimes she hurts. But she will hold you up through thick and thin. If you have Truth, Peace is not far behind. She’s wearing flowers in her hair and playing that music from the ’70’s that you and Richie love.


  14. Diane says:

    I’m having a small Christmas, with my most immediate family, which is great. I decided against trying to make an elaborate dinner than would make me feel crabby, and am making meatloaf and salad. And serving a store-bought pie. It’s much more relaxing. The tree is beautiful, the cat is using it as a hide in order to ambush people’s feet. And I can smell oregano and onions and hamburger cooking in the oven. : ) Happy holidays to you all.

  15. Jill says:

    We had a good Christmas. Dinner and presents at our elder daughters in Kansas City. Younger daughter came over. I made 2 salads that were “fail ” as it says on Pinterest. Came home Christmas Day and went over to Joe’s brother’s-all their 4 kids/spouses and most of their grandkids were there. Then I went over to my friends (who is like a sister ) and saw 3 of her 4 kids and 3 of her grands. Had some adult beverages. A good day. Today I put away all the roundtoit projects I did not get around to, took a nap, started getting caught up on the internet.

    I wish all refabbers a better/happier New Year than the past year.

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